Emotional intelligence at work is a skill that must be developed regardless of age or position. No boss or director is exempt from knowing how to manage their emotions with employees and other coworkers. Emotional intelligence consists of knowing when, where, and with whom to vent stress, anger, and, above all, frustration. These negative emotions stem from a demanding job, excessively high goals, and a toxic environment within the company. These three factors can be changed, but it is extremely difficult to change the mindset of an entire company, not just one’s own, since an individual may decide to change, but the company, work group, or management may not agree.
Mexican companies show little interest in the emotional state of their employees. They tend to focus on their own interests or goals and offer employees incomplete benefits such as gym access or discounts at restaurants, but don’t give them time to go. There are many companies like this example, so human beings must be able to develop their emotional intelligence.
This can be done in different ways. I recommend the following:
If you find yourself in a toxic work environment with your colleagues or your department, make suggestions for improvements for the group, such as respecting each other’s meal times. If they don’t accept suggestions for changes for the group, act directly with you. How? Change your work area, make it yours! If you create your own atmosphere, it will generate a positive energy that will help you concentrate better.
Place an object on your desk that gives you strength and reminds you of your own serenity. A plant if you like gardening, a ball if you like soccer, etc. It should be an object that reminds you of your essence and, preferably, something that reminds you why you are there, in that job, and with those people.
Always keep your goals in mind; why you work is key to surviving any job, company, or boss.
If you are already in a toxic job, it is important to develop emotional defenses against stress and frustration. This is achieved by exercising, spending quality time with the people you love, and especially learning to disconnect from work. Leave the office at the office!
Below are some techniques that can help you release the stress and frustration that work generates.
Practice a sport that requires strength (boxing, soccer, MMA, functional training). Exercise releases endorphins and allows you to release those negative and exhausting feelings.
Talk to someone in your field and seek advice from someone with more experience working with difficult people.
Start psychotherapy. I recommend this because it’s important to recognize if it’s a pattern of behavior that causes you to always choose a toxic job or associate with toxic people.
